5 Ways to NOT Get Dickmatized!

5 Ways to NOT Get Dickmatized!

 

Like Alexis Tyler says, "Don't Let Every Man Hit the Bottom of your Vagina!"

 

Don't let every man hit the bottom of your vagina! This is so true. I was watching this college show with Alexis Tyler, about how women become addicted to cumming and or fall in love with a no good man all because he is able to hit the bottom of her vagina. This is so funny yet so true.

 
 

The vagina has so many nerve endings. In fact, the clitoris is not the only way a woman can achieve orgasm. She can also cum from vaginal stimulation which encourages very intense orgasms. The G-spot is located in the vagina (a few inches in and up) and some women may have more than one g-spot. So allowing anyone to get you to orgasm from vaginal penetration could possibly lead to false love, bad decision making, STI's and lot's of babies (and plenty more).

 
 

So ladies, what do we do with that? Well I would love it if a nice good plate of hard body and penis could be left on my table, and picked up when I'm finished with it. But since that is not really an option, here are 5 ways not to get trapped by the power of penile orgasms. Or what my friends and I like to say, How not to Get Dickmatized!

 
 

#1 Good penis does not equal love. The lady in the video said it great when she talked about how women can have some good penis inside of them and the man is then seducing them with chants like, "who's is it", "what's my name", "how much you want it"… etc. All this is being imprinted into the brain because pleasurable sex is a powerful (one of the most powerful) emotions. Emotions and thoughts are how we manifest behavior, which then turns into learned behavior. Conclusion: Now you don't know why you love this guy who (except for sex) SUCKS!

 
 

#2. Learn your own body. Yes some men are great in bed, but women it's our bodies they are great with. And guess what, they weren't born with it, just from it. So just like you know when your nipples are sore and you're extremely hungry because your period is about to come, you can learn what spots of your vagina, your body, your mind, are ones that will get you a case of dickmatization.

 
 

#3. It's ok to have mind blowing sex and not change your whole life. Ladies, similar to #1, sex does not equal love, you also don't need to change your whole life because you got some good good. If you have a good meal at a great Thai food restaurant do you then go and buy only Thai food and eat only Thai food from now on? No! Of, course not. No need to assume because the sex was good, great or awesome that you need to change your life. No Honey, the experience was great, but let's step back into reality.

 
 

#4. Women, know thyself and separate good penis and pleasure from a loving relationship. Ladies, we are humans, pleasure is a natural urge and orgasm a natural response. Neither of them equals a loving relationship. Loving relationships take time, commitment, energy, and so much more. When pleasure occurs from another person be grateful but remember… Never mind… Here's the last but not least.

 
 

#5. Remember. It is SO possible for you to make YOURSELF cum. So aside from the jokes and innuendos made about sex toys and women… Ladies, remember sex toys don't get you pregnant, clean ones don't give you diseases and the worst the damn things can do is break, and not up with you!

 
 

So how do you determine if the man you're with has you dickmatized? Well, whenever you're ready, ask yourself a few questions. Outside of sex how well do you like him? Outside of sex, how well does he treat you? Outside of sex, what is your relationship like? If these answers don't equal love, sincerity, intimacy, friendship, etc. but you "Just can't leave him alone" then Baby, You're dickmatized. The bottom of your vagina has been hit, knocked out... Ready to recover? Visit www.wheneveryoureready.com.

 
 

Namaste,

 
 

~Ms. QuiraA

A New Perspective…

I wrote this letter as a bit of advice to a client. After reading it I thought, anyone could benefit from this if they're ready. I am a counselor who believes in spiritual resolution and obtaining new perspectives, once we look inward for strength we become powerful. I hope this advice is something that can help you gain a new perspective.

 

All names and associations have been changed and/or removed before posting.

 

Good Morning,

 
 

I got up this morning with you on my mind and when I checked my email I had this as a thought for the day from Oprah's website so immediately my mind went back to you. I want to tell you, all this work you are doing, all this learning about your own spirituality, meditating and understanding the science behind your mind, well you must use it to tell if it works.

 

The days when you feel like you just cannot go on and don't want to, those are the days to practice. Those are your opportunities to make a different choice. Your subconscious mind/the Universe is constantly trying to work with you, allowing situations to come up and giving you the chance to practice your new way of being, when things are not joyous.

 
 

Yesterday was a big deal, you flaked out on yourself and you went right back to your old way of coping. Even if today is going great you did not use your tools when things are not going great, and I believe it's time for you to focus on what you are really asking your reality to be like.

 
 

For example, if your wanting and meditating on your partner to want to be with you and only you, that is not real meditating, that is asking for some magical shift to occur in another person so you can be with them, IMPOSSIBLE. Look inside yourself for answers of change. How about meditating on you wanting to be able to happily have a relationship with this specific person? That's what you said to me when we first met, that you want to be happy in THIS relationship. Even though you feel like the dishonesty is unbearable, you still want this relationship. Even though you feel un-chosen, you still want this relationship. So if you want to be in this relationship and be happy you are going to have to change your feelings.

 
 

The feelings of wanting to be chosen are not real, that is a made up absolutistic expectation of what a relationship should look like, or what someone should do for someone else. The feelings of being lied to are fake as well because that is another made up absolutistic expectation on how much a person should tell you about their own intimate thoughts and actions.

 
 

You have chosen to be with a person who is habitually dishonest and prefers to have multiple partners. You say you can accept the multiple partners, but... and you definitely can't take the lying, but... well neither of those will work. You must accept this relationship for what it truly is in order to move forward and in order to obtain your own happiness. And furthermore, I know you can! Because all this sadness you hold on to...it's not real. It's in your mind, how many times have you already heard this? You still don't believe it?

 
 

You mostly know when he is lying but instead of being ok with who he is you get all upset and emotional about the lying. Stop putting yourself through the same negative emotions. Being sad is a choice SO IS being happy. You can choose your thoughts, you don't want to be sad, think about what makes you happy. All the times you're happy remember those thoughts because you'll need them. You must practice using them when you're sad or all this work is for nothing.

 
 

Maybe it's time to start taking a look at what you're meditating on and asking the Universe to bring to you. If what you're asking for is something strictly from your own reality, then it can manifest. But you cannot create in another person's reality.

 
 

You want your partner to do right, well ask for the ways in which you can be happy in this relationship until they get it together, ask for the power to love yourself more than you love them. You want to leave, ask for the power to see your reality so you can remain objective, ask to gain a new perspective about this relationship, ask that your habit of constant sadness about the same things be transformed into constant peace, joy or whatever!

 

But the point is you need new perspectives. That is ALL that this existence is about, that is what every book, therapy technique and psychologist will ultimately tell you. Life is ALL about perspectives. So it is time for you to get a new one, and one that actually works for you. And you won't know what works for you and what doesn't, if you don't practice.

 

Whenever you're ready…

 

Warmly,

 

Ms. QuiraA

Sexual Transformation Happens Whenever You’re Ready…

The transformation of control in all areas of life doesn't just happen from 'good sex', numerous sexual experiences, or even masturbation alone. The transformation through sexuality is much deeper than that. People must constantly work with their sexual selves, in order to practice self-worth behaviors in their outside world. Masturbation is a great way to do this if a person is not in a relationship (and even if they are).

Sexuality is not switch that is turned off and on based on reproduction, conquest and age. Sexuality is a part of our lives until the day we die. If we don't practice being in-touch with our pleasurable selves we are not appreciating our body and what it can do for us. This type of negligence can be part of reasons why people don't speak up for themselves in stressful situations, why people don't say "no" when they really don't want to do something, and why some women aren't having orgasms while having sex with their partners. If a person can't speak up while sharing their body with another, it is no wander if they didn't speak up for themselves in numerous situations.

Sexuality begins from the day humans are born. The moment a baby comes from the womb we look for the sex of the baby to announce to all the waiting patrons. Being a mother of 4, I discovered the sex of all my babies by ultrasound well before they were born. Once we learned the sex, my whole family bought outfits and toys that were related to the sex of the baby. Already I had a little man, or sweet princess who everyone was prepared to goo-goo ga-ga over. Already they are expected to marry the opposite sex and have children, before humans are born they are seen as sexual beings.

Our sexuality ends when we die, if from the moment we are born we are brought up to sexually conform the societal norm, then how could the behavior just "poof" go away when we become 65 and get senior citizen discounts? It doesn't. A woman is not a woman only because she birthed children or got married, or even just because she menstruates. A female is a female before puberty and she is a female after menopause. A woman is a woman because she identifies as a woman, whatever makes me feel like a woman, makes me a woman. Period.

So if being sexual makes me feel like a woman at the age of 65 then I am a woman and if the tingles I get in my clit when I smile at a cute guy or girl at the store make me feel like a woman, dammit I am a woman. The mature population has the right to a pleasure based safer-sexual lifestyle and the benefits of masturbation and/or sexual intercourse do not disappear once one becomes seasoned. Humans can still have sexual desires well into their 90's, and they are living that long. Our genitals provide sexual pleasure even when we cannot reproduce, that alone is proof there is more to sex than conquest, performance and pro-creation.

As an intimate life coach, I encourage people to come (pun intended) to their own understanding of their sexual desires and pleasures. If a person comes to my workshops, it is because they are ready. Ready to unlearn all they thought they knew about sexuality and come to a new understanding and appreciation of how their sexual self can flow into all aspects of their intimate life.

Ms. QuiraA

Intimate life coach…

Whenever you're ready…™

I Feel...

Today I learned a lot. I learned that I am going into a field where I will be challenged to the extreme. I may be made to feel stupid, belittled and like what I'm saying is ridiculous and I should know better. I know I will experience times where every part of a situation is unfair but there is nothing I can do about it RIGHT NOW. I will
ALWAYS MOVE FORWARD. I KNOW what my mission is, I BELIEVE in every aspect of it. So I guess I got to pay.

 

I feel...

Violated.

Touched without my permission,

Fucked into submission,

They came and took my Shit!

What?!

I'm on a mission!

I'm tryin' to do me,

And I'm not tryin' to give me to you...

Unless I want to...

 
 

I feel like..

I been…

Penetrated dry.

In my ass,

Taken advantage of like,

Fuck yo past!

Bitch.

Give me ya cash.

Cuz, I'm takin' yo shit.

If you want it back…

U Got to pay.

And I really don't wanna hear shit

you got to say.

Take that up wit somebody else.

Right now.

You need to break yo self.

You want ya shit? Well...

You Got to pay.

 
 

Sorry it was in front of your house

I guess all those other times you was slick.

Looks like u finally... Got... Caught.

CAUGHT!? What?!

I'm parked in front of my home!

I can't park in front of my home?

Actually ma'am,

No.

And I just got off the phone wit your H.O.A.

who said, you can't park there today.

So, you want ya shit? Well…

You Got to pay.

 
 

Fucked into submission.

Touched without my permission,

No jelly. no lube. no lickin'.

I feel…

Violated.

 
 

~Ms. QuiraA~

I Feel...

I feel...

Violated.

Touched without my permission,

Fucked into submission,

They came and took my Shit!

What?!

I'm on a mission!

I'm tryin' to do me,

And I'm not tryin' to give me… to you...

Unless I want to...

 
 

I feel like…

I been…

Penetrated dry.

In my ass,

Taken advantage of like,

Fuck yo past!

Bitch.

Give me ya cash.

Cuz, I'm takin' yo shit.

If you want it back…

U Got to pay.

And I really don't wanna hear shit

you got to say.

Take that up wit somebody else.

Right now.

You need to break yo self.

You want ya shit? Well...

You Got to pay.

 
 

Sorry it was in front of your house

I guess all those other times you was slick.

Looks like u finally... Got... Caught.

CAUGHT!? What?!

I'm parked in front of my home!

I can't park in front of my home?

Actually ma'am,

No.

And I just got off the phone wit your H.O.A.

who said, you can't park there today.

So, you want ya shit? Well…

You Got to pay.

 
 

Fucked into submission.

Touched without my permission,

No jelly. no lube. no lickin'.

I feel…

Violated.

 
 

~Ms. QuiraA~

Why would we want to change the world’s negative view on sexuality?

I am sitting here trying to promote my facebook group to get 1 million people to say they self-pleasure (masturbate) and feel good about it. But then I got to thinking, why? Why would we want to change the way the world views sexuality, what is the point? The point for Ms. QuiraA is so people know that sex is meant for pleasure. Before and beyond child-bearing age we are sexual beings, children masturbate before even knowing what their genitals are called, and do people stop getting it on after 50? Of course not, and that's well above child bearing age. So as proof in itself sex is more than about procreation, it's about pleasure too.

In my opinion masturbation should be a person's first sexual experience, and should be positive. I used to think I was the only person who thought this way until I attended an AASECT (American Association for Sex Educators Counselors and Therapists) conference and met a wonderful woman named Betty Dodson who is a feminist that promotes sexual freedom, which heavily includes masturbation. Masturbation is such a big deal because the relationship with ourselves is such a big deal, if we can love ourselves enough to let go and submit to our own desires than we can begin to let go and submit to all that we have to offer ourselves.

Changing the world's view on self-pleasure would mean people would have to begin owning their own orgasms, as Betty would say. Women would be responsible for saying what feels good to them and men wouldn't think they have to be a magician to make a woman orgasm. Parents could even begin to teach their children the real deal about sex, the birds and the bees and the flowers and the trees. Did you know the flowers and trees signify pleasure? 'Sex talks' with kids seem to leave that part out a lot, but I say let's bring it in!

I want young girls to know their
orgasms are a part of their sexual experience with another person too. I also want them to know that deep and emotional feelings come from sexual release, with self pleasure they will be able to experience those emotions with themselves
first. When people self-pleasure they can allow themselves to let go to themselves, their Spirit, God or Universe, if they can do it and feel good about it.

This idea starts with grown-ups though, and not all grown-ups either. I am calling out to the ones who self-pleasure and feel good about it, tell someone who you think could benefit from knowing. Then tell young people who are sexually active, then tell your own children, when they're ready, the point is tell them. Tell them what to expect from self-pleasure, tell them what they can achieve on their own tell them to get to know their own bodies before (or while) sharing it with others. Talking about sex isn't forbidden anymore, it's ok, it's natural, it's a part of our whole lives.

Those of you who don't self-pleasure and feel good about it, but want to, go for it.

Here's a tip:

Make a date with yourself, even if for only 45 minutes. Take some time to sit with yourself (you can even do this in the mirror). Say something funny, something to make you smile or even something soothing to make you relax, then compliment yourself (this may seem awkward at first but go ahead try it, you'll be all alone, no one will even know you are doing it). Scan your body from head to toe, focusing your attention on each body part. Once you have finished slowly begin to touch yourself, try your nipples, your thighs, your arms, your genitals. All parts of your body. Do this as long as it feels good. When you finish, take a moment to notice how you feel, then compliment yourself again. Enjoy!

Whenever you're ready…

~Ms. QuiraA~

www.msquiraasgoodies.com

Ms. QuiraA’s Top 6 Reasons Why You Should Masturbate

There are so many myths about masturbating. I'm sure you have heard most of them. You get hairy palms, you're nasty, if you're 'too young' then it will cause you to want to have sex. It's unclean (a sin), it's a form of self mutilation (I was surprised by this one!), it means you don't love your partner. So many reasons why people shouldn't self pleasure themselves. And, if these myths are deemed justifiable until a person is old enough to understand what masturbation is, then that myth there is even bogus!

See, humans self pleasure in so many ways, we eat good foods, we exercise, spend time with friends, meditate, groom ourselves, look in the mirror, massage sore body parts, all the way to the actual act of self pleasuring our genitals. How can such a private and intimate moment spent with yourself be deemed a horrible wrong act? I don't know the answer to that, but what I do know is, there are way more reasons to masturbate than there are not to. Legitimate reasons I mean.

1. First and most important in my book, why not, it's your own body, no one knows if you're doing it (if you do it in private) and it damn sure feels good to make yourself feel good. I know there have been many a time where I have rubbed my temples and it felt sooo good. So, masturbation, why not?

2. It feels good. Who can honestly say they are so unaware of their own bodies that they don't know if masturbation feels good or not. Well if you can it, it's probably because your scared to really open up to yourself. (Silly though isn't it, especially since you are with you all day long and still not comfortable enough to say 'hello, down there')

3. If you're not using it to make babies what are you doing with it? Our sexual organs are meant for 2 things, reproduction and pleasure. If you're not going use them to make babies, please leave them open to pleasure. Now people, don't go getting it confused. I am not saying go out and just masturbate, or have sex, with everyone for pleasure (unless that's what you like) what I am saying is, if your going to try it, like it. Masturbating is a solo act, there is no wrong way to touch the "Goodies". It's yours, you should know it best.

Food for thought: If you choose not to build an intimate relationship with yourself, how do expect to build an intimate relationship with someone else?

4. So reason number four is pretty obvious to anyone who has had an orgasm. However, if you haven't experienced an "O" number four may peak your interest. Relieves Tension and relaxes you. Wow! Seriously? Yep. Sure does. Orgasms are wonderful, however if the "O" isn't obtained the juices stimulated while attempt the "O" send receptors to your brain that say, "hey, my body feels good, wheew!". You can actually become more relaxed and peaceful from masturbating.

5.
Only sexual option available that's 100% effective against STD's and pregnancy. Married couples, new couples and young couples even, can use co-masturbation (partners masturbating together) which is just as safe as private masturbation! Wow who would want to masturbate in front of their partner instead of having sex? Well, how about this, masturbation (alone or with someone) is the key ingredient to finding out what you like, you can get the sex you want, whenever you "go all the way", which leads us right into reason 6.

6.
Helps you find out what you like, don't like and love! Ever heard the saying 'a closed mouth don't get fed'. Well an untouched sex organ is starving! Like reason number two says, if you're not making babies what on earth are you doing with it? Besides, when you do want to practice 'baby-making', it should feel good. Do you know how to activate it? If someone pushes your buttons (makes you hot!), can you say, "ooooh baby keep it right there"? Do you know where your hot spots are? If not, what are you doing!? Why are you letting someone push buttons on you that you haven't even pushed! Call the Police on you!™

Ms. QuiraA is a firm believer in pleasure positive sexual experiences! Masturbation is a way to obtain your positive sexual experiences. Otherwise, you may keep getting a hit and miss when you meet someone who tells you, 'hey, baby, I can blow your mind". Masturbation can give you the confidence to reply with, "I can blow my own mind. We must have something in common!"

6 reasons are by far not the only reasons to masturbate. They are just a few.

Whenever you're ready…

~Ms. QuiraA~

www.msquiraasgoodies.com